Be Your Child’s Friend

As an adult and while growing up, we know how difficult it is to find a good friend who knows everything about you and wouldn’t judge you. Wouldn’t it be great if your parent were your friend and you could ask them for advice when stuck without the fear of being judged?

A great indicator that you are a good parent is how comfortable and open your children are with you, but while they recognize the freedom and respect the boundary.

Children struggle with telling their parents different things many times, because of the fear of being judged or denied approval. Having the comfort level of being able to tell the parents anything is imperative if you want a healthy relationship with your child.

It is necessary to build a foundation of great communication with your child which is open to learning and growing. This relationship has to be mutual, where you learn from each other. If you actually, pay attention and listen to them you can learn a lot from your child, despite how old they are. A lot of times in certain areas children actually know way more than us as adults.

Being friends with your child builds more trust and respect in your relationship. This is because by being friends also along with being parents, you start to learn more about each other; your child’s nuances and quirks, what they feel about certain things that you never thought mattered to them, etc. They in turn also learn more about how you are, not just as a parent, but as a human being, how flawed you could be and this realization can also help them realize that parents aren’t perfect and they make mistakes too, which is normal.

This helps develop trust between the parents and children because of the familiarity in behavior and an open relationship. This also helps develop respect and your child would turn up to you for advice or when in difficulty. It often happens that the children are so terrified of what their parents may think and how they may react that they bottle up their emotions and don’t share if they are being bullied, blackmailed or harassed.

Knowing your child better would also help you set rules that you know your child would follow since you have a deeper insight into their personality.

But when it is time to discipline your child, being their friend also helps as you can better explain why you’re disciplining them, as well as what behavior you didn’t approve of.

By being friends with your child, you trust each other much better and you would know when to say yes or no, avoiding the misjudgment as much as possible.

Involve them in daily chores, which will help you bond better, take a bit off your load and also instill responsibility in children. All of this becomes easier if you were friends. you would not have to worry about coaxing them, bribing them and finally threatening them, since they know how tiresome it could get. They slowly begin to see this as fun and relaxing.

It is important not to force it. Your unconditional love and friendship are two of the biggest gifts that you can give to your children,  by all means, give them your love,  trust, and friendship, and let them know how much you value it.

Your Fussy Eater To Healthy Eater!

Developing healthy habits in children begins when they are toddlers. Some habits ingrained at a young age remain forever. Think back to things you learned as a kid-  brushing your teeth, taking bath, putting your clothes in the wardrobe. Those habits are second nature now that you’re an adult. The same can be true with healthy eating. The earlier your kids learn about and practice good nutrition, the more likely it will become a life-long habit.

We also know that children are fussy eaters and as the child grows their eating habits develop which follow them throughout their life. Thus it is vital to encourage healthy choices, which is a great way to start them down the path of developing healthy eating habits that they will carry into adulthood. 

While getting your child to eat healthy in the times of fast food is tedious, it is definitely not impossible.

Here is a list of ways in which you can get your child to eat healthily:

1.  Be The Mentor

A child learns many things from his/her parents. Set an example and be a role- model to your child. While ordering food online or in a restaurant, order healthy food most of the times. Eat healthy at home, bring less packaged food and cook your child’s favorite dishes at home.

2. No No To Bait

Parents often coax their child into eating vegetables/fruits in return of letting them eat anything that the child demands which is most unhealthy. Giving an unhealthy food as bait is a wrong practice which affects the health and perception of a child in the long run.

If he/she is finishing even half of the plate without complaining, that is good enough. Don’t force your child to finish the entire plate and bait them.

Do not reward with food. It sends the wrong message especially as most foods offered are not typically healthy options.

3. Share Gadget-Free meals

Lives are busy and sharing a proper meal with family has become scarce. But it is essential that a parent doesn’t start off with handing a gadget to the child while feeding. On the dining table have a strict no gadget policy where neither the parents nor the children are allowed to view their gadgets during their mealtime. This makes one mindful of what they are eating, build better bonds and start great conversations.

4. Know, Teach and Eat

As parents, we consider feeding or preparing a meal as a mere task. Stick to the basics and go back to your roots. Know what you are cooking and eating, how it helps your overall development. If you are a parent to your toddler, feed them telling them what they are eating and explain it to them what it would do to their body in a story or poem as they would understand. If you are a parent of a teen, cook together and eat together. Be aware of the things you are feeding your body as a parent and to your child.

5. Experiment With Food

Even an adult gets bored by a fixed menu and is delighted by a change in the menu or a healthy fusion food or something that looks drool-worthy.

Experiment with different vegetables, fruits, lentils or for starters just present the food in a way the kids would love and can’t resist trying.

Healthy eating habits with the right exercise will help your child be good in academics. Kids who eat healthily are more likely to go to class and to pay attention in class, be more energetic rather than sluggish. Good nutrition and healthy eating habits can help lower calorie consumption, helping kids keep the extra weight away.

Your Fussy Eater To Healthy Eater!

Developing healthy habits in children begins when they are toddlers. Some habits ingrained at a young age remain forever. Think back to things you learned as a kid-  brushing your teeth, taking bath, putting your clothes in the wardrobe. Those habits are second nature now that you’re an adult. The same can be true with healthy eating. The earlier your kids learn about and practice good nutrition, the more likely it will become a life-long habit.

We also know that children are fussy eaters and as the child grows their eating habits develop which follow them throughout their life. Thus it is vital to encourage healthy choices, which is a great way to start them down the path of developing healthy eating habits that they will carry into adulthood. 

While getting your child to eat healthy in the times of fast food is tedious, it is definitely not impossible.

Here is a list of ways in which you can get your child to eat healthily:

1.  Be The Mentor

A child learns many things from his/her parents. Set an example and be a role- model to your child. While ordering food online or in a restaurant, order healthy food most of the times. Eat healthy at home, bring less packaged food and cook your child’s favorite dishes at home.

2. No No To Bait

Parents often coax their child into eating vegetables/fruits in return of letting them eat anything that the child demands which is most unhealthy. Giving an unhealthy food as bait is a wrong practice which affects the health and perception of a child in the long run.

If he/she is finishing even half of the plate without complaining, that is good enough. Don’t force your child to finish the entire plate and bait them.

Do not reward with food. It sends the wrong message especially as most foods offered are not typically healthy options.

3. Share Gadget-Free meals

Lives are busy and sharing a proper meal with family has become scarce. But it is essential that a parent doesn’t start off with handing a gadget to the child while feeding. On the dining table have a strict no gadget policy where neither the parents nor the children are allowed to view their gadgets during their mealtime. This makes one mindful of what they are eating, build better bonds and start great conversations.

4. Know, Teach and Eat

As parents, we consider feeding or preparing a meal as a mere task. Stick to the basics and go back to your roots. Know what you are cooking and eating, how it helps your overall development. If you are a parent to your toddler, feed them telling them what they are eating and explain it to them what it would do to their body in a story or poem as they would understand. If you are a parent of a teen, cook together and eat together. Be aware of the things you are feeding your body as a parent and to your child.

5. Experiment With Food

Even an adult gets bored by a fixed menu and is delighted by a change in the menu or a healthy fusion food or something that looks drool-worthy.

Experiment with different vegetables, fruits, lentils or for starters just present the food in a way the kids would love and can’t resist trying.

Healthy eating habits with the right exercise will help your child be good in academics. Kids who eat healthily are more likely to go to class and to pay attention in class, be more energetic rather than sluggish. Good nutrition and healthy eating habits can help lower calorie consumption, helping kids keep the extra weight away.

Take And Give – Time

Take time to train your kids on “grown-up” tasks. It builds their sense of independence. When you see them not behaving properly in a public place like a party or a restaurant, don’t go around bossing them immediately. Try to give some time for them to learn them. 

Discover one task in a week that your child could do with some training or help from you. Now let us break them into several smaller steps, so that they know how it is done.

After you have trained him in doing it perfectly, assign it as ‘his/her job.’ These tasks might look simple to you, but they help your kid to develop a sense of confidence.

 For example, you can teach your younger ones on how to clean up their play area and put dirty clothes in the hamper or help clear the dinner table and make their beds.

Now that you have trained them doing a certain job, don’t rush them in getting things done in one or two days. Of course, he/she is not going to show a stellar result. They are just budding, give them some time. While they are trying to fix their mistakes, let your little one know that you appreciate his/her hard work — and encourage him/her to keep trying. Childhood is a crucial time and the precursor to adolescence, so parents should praise even the smallest accomplishments at first — to advance them on the path to self-reliance.

Let’s also walk and talk in MOTHER TONGUE as well…


Parents gleam proudly when their toddler uses English words or even converse averagely in English. One would have witnessed such a situation in a mall or at a friend’s place or you could be one of them too.  While it is perfectly alright for a toddler to speak in English, it is absolutely essential that the child also learns her/his native language.

Post-liberalization and in the need to look savvy and modern, the English language has gained a lot of importance, also the language playing as an aspirational “must have” has led to the alienation of local language.

Bygones are only to be used to learn, and here are the top four reasons why parents need to make sure their child learns their native language:

1. Keeping In Touch With Your Roots & Building Bond

Your mother tongue is your legacy, it helps connect you to your ancestors and culture in a way that many other things don’t. Our native language not only allows us to communicate and connect with one another, but it allows us to understand and appreciate the history of our ancestors and our upbringing. It cultivates an appreciation and understanding that is beyond beneficial for children, especially those from diverse backgrounds.

Speaking and teaching your mother tongue help to strengthen ties with family members. If the native language isn’t maintained, important links to family members may be lost. Parents can help their children learn their mother tongue and culture at home while, at the same time, incorporate the elements of the new language (English)  into their life.

2. Helps in cognitive and intellectual development

The children who are learners are able to speak their mother tongue well, not only do they experience better cognitive development but also better intellectual development.

It is a well-known fact that children with a solid foundation in their mother tongue have better educational success.

3. Investing in the future

Learning your native language and English is a blessing in disguise. Learning your mother tongue, the local language which could be different from your mother tongue and English at an early stage will help your child communicate better with the world. By encouraging, teaching, and learning along with them you are also making your bond stronger and teaching them something they could cherish for life.

Being multilingual helps your child will be better in all the languages he/she knows, helping in better development and furthermore adding interpersonal skills early in life.

4. Raising A Bilingual Child

As a parent we want our child to speak fluent and good English. Research shows that children learn English(as a second language)  more effectively if they continue to develop their first language at the same time making them bilingual.

Bilingual learners’ brains are more flexible as they are able to store and access information in two languages using both sides of their brain simultaneously, developing memory, concentration, multitasking, creativity, problem-solving.

While this may all seem challenging, it is essential, as a parent to a young child, that you teach them their mother tongue and also teach them English in ways which are fun and enjoyable, equipping them to face the world.

Zestful Holidays for Growing Children!!!


Holidays symbolized joy, fun, and frolic. It should continue to and perhaps it does continue to. But in the recent past, the definition of joy and fun has changed. Parents and the children are attached more towards their electronic devices than with each other. A few years back, a child spent the most time with their parents, friends and extended family.

Parents today drop off the child at a relative’s place or take them to the mall for movies and food, give their children expensive gifts or take them on several trips outside giving them every detail, not letting a tinge of a surprise for the child.

As parents, we often tend to do this because we are unable to spend much time as expected with the kids or we tend to give things we never had when we were young.

It is a fact that the first 7 years of a child’s life is the most important. That is the time when the subconscious mind of an infant is programmed. The child copies and observes their surroundings. This is a crucial time where we as parents need to pay attention to. Your toddler doesn’t need an iPad or an iPhone. They want to spend some time with you. They want you to listen to their problems, ideas, stories, share their happiness, etc. And most important is that they want you to listen and pay attention to them.

Your child doesn’t want to go to the mall or on a road trip every holiday, all she wants is your attention and time. This way you understand them better and don’t need to coax them on every tantrum they throw or work on a barter basis with your own child.

Here are a few ideas on how to spend an active holiday with your champ:

1. Play Catch Up

Use the holidays to play catch up with your child. Talk to them, sing songs, read books to them, involve them in minimal cooking and days wouldn’t be sufficient.

2. Make a holiday a no phone day

We are controlled by phones and social media more than you can imagine. Give it a break together. Go to the good old days and play board games, hide and seek and be a kid with your kid.

3.Holiday Time = Bond Time

Slowly make holidays a bonding time. Use holidays to talk to your child about their school, friends, subjects and let them speak their heart out. It is essential they know you will be there with them through thick and thin and will listen.

4. Surprise and Explore

When you take your child out on holidays, make sure you don’t tell them every tiny detail of the trip. Let them explore, run, chase the wind, fall, get up and play. Let uncertainty and disappointment in their lives.

Buying everything, and being bullied by your child isn’t a happy childhood. You being there and teaching and knowing the right and wrong is a happy childhood.

Happy holidays also make a happy childhood. Are you working towards a happy childhood of your child?

Cool Kids Use Gadgets – In a More Different Way!

From Pokémon to the coolest Avenger Ironman, everybody has fancy gadgets nowadays. To be in this 21st century without a gadget, at least a Smartphone would be a disastrous idea. It would be awesome if we have gadgets like Ironman or like Ben 10.

That is so cool, right?

In mobile, games like mine craft, the clash of clans, dragon city and many more are the coolest stuff to play. Of course, your mom or dad doesn’t understand the excitements behind it. They simply push you to extreme and ground you for using them.

Are they wrong?

I can hear you guys shouting YESSS!

Well, we should teach them, how fun it is to play games in mobile or watch dragon series in a laptop. But before that, we shall see, what Pokémon, Ben 10 and the Avengers are saying about the gadgets.

Why your superheroes use gadgets?

All the superheroes own a gadget and use them then and there effectively.  But you should know that they don’t use the gadgets to play games, instead, they use it to save lives and make the world a better place.

Have you seen anytime Pokémon hero Ash using mobile to play games like mine craft? He doesn’t use because he wants to become a hero and be the coolest kid. Don’t you want to become awesome like him?

All the Avengers, especially Spiderman – the one who has never used an electronic gadget, are out there turning into a superhero because they are not watching cartoon series in a laptop or playing games in mobile. Don’t you want to be a cool kid like them?

How to become awesome?

I am not going to say don’t use gadgets. Instead, I am going to show the ways how you can be the good kid to your parents while using the gadgets.  I understand that it is hard to avoid yourself from gadgets when the whole world around you is using one. If you had someone to solve puzzles with you, you would never use mobile to play clash of clans.  Yeah right? Okay, let us see simple ways of turning into an awesome one.

*Set yourself time in using them, either if it is going to be playing in them or watching your favorite cartoon series. Play for only the time you set yourself and turn off them once when you reach your time limit.

*Always be careful with the electronic shocks that might occur through mobile. Using a specific gadget for a very long time can make the gadget to burst. Do you want your mobile or laptop to burst like a cracker? Of course No!!

*This is the most important point. While playing, if you accidentally scratch the device or itself hangs on its own, your parents are going to ground you from all the entertainment. That is a very mean way to be punished, right? Be careful while you use one.

*Gadgets can never become your best friend.  The pal sitting in your classroom or living next to you is the best companion to you at all times. Playing with him/her is happier than playing in mobile. And kids that play with other kids always look cooler.

              Wow! That is so easy to be a cool kid in the neighborhood, classroom and in the family.  I am going to watch you guys because I am in the cool kids club already.

Don’t  you want to join?!!